Most Disagreements are the

Result of Faulty Assumptions.

If in doubt, ASK…

Once while hiking in the mountains a man observed two other men across the valley also walking along a narrow pathway. They were just far enough away that he could hear them talking, but could only make out the muffled sound of their voices.

All the sudden one of the men turned to the other, shouted loudly at the top of his voice, and then violently shoved his companion off the pathway.

The man rolled down the steep embankment to the bottom of the ravine unharmed.

Because of his perspective and his rushing to a conclusion, the observer “assumed” he had just witnessed a violent act, but what he didn’t see was the huge rattlesnake the man was about to step on before his friend bravely pushed him out of harms way.

What he didn’t hear were the words of an impassioned warning – he “assumed” they were words of anger.

We all tend to do this quite frequently.

We interpret information through our own filter and make faulty assumptions.

The sad thing is that most of our assumptions are negative.

• You said that on purpose to hurt, blame, or criticize me, etc.
• You did that on purpose; you know how much it bothers me.
• I know how they’ll react so I’m not even going to bring it up.
• He/she isn’t talking much so they must be upset.
• They should know what to do, what I need, how they should behave, what’s going on……etc.

The list of assumption goes on and on.

We’re really not near as good as we think are at mind reading.

Mind reading leads to more resentment and anger than we really need to have.

Be open-minded, ask questions, gather details before you make an assumption.

Communicate to people how you feel and what you need them to do.

Don’t assume that they should know.

Why?

You can save yourself a lot of anguish!!

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Fay Prairie is a counselor, personal life coach and speaker specializing in personal development, relationships and empowering mindsets. She helps set you free from stress and negativity so you can start creating a Better You…Better Relationships…Better Life…

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