Two Guaranteed Tips
To Improve Any Relationship
Step 1: Let it Go
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question.
Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired:
“How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it.
• If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem.
• If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm.
• If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed.
In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
“The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water.
• Think about them for a while and nothing happens.
• Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt.
• If you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
Remember to put the glass down.
The same goes for relationships.
The longer you hold onto it, the heavier it becomes.
We need to let it go.
If you quit hanging onto it, your load will be a lot lighter and your relationships will be a lot better!
Let go of anger, resentments and frustrations.
An Exercise to help you “Let It Go”
Right now, go grab a pen and hold onto it really, really tight. Now, open your hand and let the pen drop to the floor.
Yep, let it go. Just let go of it.
Now, every time you’re having trouble letting go of something, grab a pen and do this exercise again.
Do it over and over until you really start to “let it go”
If you don’t have a pen, then visualize doing it in your mind.
Each time you do it,you will strengthen your ability to “let it go”…………
Step 2: Give Up the Need to Be Right
If you want to improve your relationships, sleep more, stress less, and just be happier, you need to give up the compulsion to be right.
Yes, Needing to be right harms relationships and it causes you stress!
Needing to be right breeds disagreements, conflicts, and resentments.
Many of us are too committed to making the other person wrong.
When you are fighting to be right, you are adding tension to the relationship.
But when you release your need to be right, you are releasing tension to the relationship.
You just don’t need to prove that you are right all the time.
Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?
There’s really not that great of a benefit to being right.
• It doesn’t make you a better person.
• It doesn’t give you more confidence.
• It’s not helpful, and it’s not necessary.
