Have you ever worried about what other people think about you? Have you compared yourself to others and come out way beneath them?
I bet you’re shaking your head, “yes.” It’s time to change your mindset… Today, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.
You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough.
You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already valuable.
If someone says something negative about you, that doesn’t change anything about YOU.
The words and opinions of others have no real bearing on your worth.
It’s great to receive positive feedback, but it simply doesn’t always happen. We need to learn to give the positive feedback we need from others to ourselves.
Know and believe that your true worth does not depend on the judgment of others.
There will be those who disagree with you, those who ignore you, and those who flat out reject your ideas and efforts. Look beyond them, step confidently forward, do what must be done, and let them think what they will.
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~Louise L. Hay
Start with these two strategies to love and appreciate yourself more!
1. Make a daily gratitude journal in which you appreciate yourself.
Write down good things that have happened in your day.
Note the things you’ve done well, the choices you’ve made that you’re proud of, the progress you’ve made, and even just the things that you felt happy about during your day.
When you regularly praise yourself and notice your successes, self-validation becomes a habit vs negative self-talk.
2. Before seeking external validation, ask yourself, “What do I hope that person tells me?” Then tell it to yourself.
Essentially, you’re looking for someone else to see the best in you and believe in you. Give yourself what you’re seeking from them.
The goal is to be there for yourself, see the good in yourself and give yourself verbal, positive self-talk!
