We make assumptions about what other people are doing or thinking and then we believe our assumptions are “gospel.”

Then we take it personal, create sadness and drama, blame the other person and react by sending them emotional poison.

You’re walking in the store and you see a good friend.  She looks at you and then without saying a word, walks away.  You begin to make up stories in your mind.

“She must be upset with me.” “I remember our conversation last week when I told her how I felt about her sister.”  “I’m sure that’s why she’s upset with me.” “That really makes me mad because she’s the one that asked for my opinion.” “That is so unfair.”  “See if I ever give my opinion to her again.” “How dare she ignore me just because I was honest.”

Now you’ve made up a whole fantasy in your mind that you believe is true.  But, is it?

You’re in a relationship and you make the assumption that they see things the same way you do.  You take for granted that they should know what you need and want.  When they don’t, you feel hurt and think, “How could they do that?”

The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions.  Ask for what you want.  If you don’t understand something, ask until you are clear instead of assuming.

The more you “check things out” instead of “assuming,” the more you will see your relationships drastically improve!