Are you following a map or are you just winging it and hoping for the best?
Setting an intention is like following a map.
If you continue to drive down the road without a map and a specific destination, you never really know where you’ll end up.
Having a clear intention is like taking time to plan your trip so you end up where you want to be.
You are actually setting intentions constantly
without even knowing you are doing so.
Are you consciously choosing your intentions?
or
Are you randomly letting your mind choose them?
If you’d like to be a better person, have better relationships, and live a better life– start having a clear intention about who you want to be in your relationships.
When you know who you want to be and you start following that map, you’ll have a much better chance ending up where you want to be.
This may be common sense, but are you doing it?
- Before you went into your last meeting at work, did you set an intention for who you wanted to be and how you wanted to interact with others?
- Before your last phone call, did you set an intention of how you wanted to come across, your tone, your mood, your level of concern?
- The last time you were out with friends, did you set an intention for the person you wanted to be? Energetic, upbeat, friendly?
- The last time you had to deal with a conflict, did you set an intention to be a better listener, to put your defenses down? , to be empathetic? To be respectful and assertive?
How can you set intentions?
STEP ONE: Use questions to help yourself set intention in your relationships.
- How can I be a better person in this upcoming situation or conversation?
- How can I interact in ways that will help lead to solutions?
STEP TWO: Use your imagination to pre-pave the way.
- See yourself consciously and consistently creating positive interactions with others.
STEP THREE: Ask yourself, “How do I want to be remembered?”
STEP FOUR: Take time to identify your intentions.
- I intend to bring positive energy to this conversation.
- I intend to truly listen.
- I intend to be appreciative.
- I intend to be understanding and empathetic.
- I intend to be open minded.
- I intend to choose my response versus reacting.
- I intend to stop taking things personally.
- I intend to forgive others, and myself.
- I intend to be more thoughtful.
- I intend to be kind and fair.
- I intend to be respectful.
When you set positive intentions, you are sending out positive vibrations stating ‘this is what i would like in this experience’.
This process will help you focus your thoughts on what it is that you want which therefore brings happy experiences into your life where there may not have been if you had not pre-paved the way.
And like all processes, the more you apply it, the more skilled you become and the more fun it is, and the more effective your results will be.
